But somewhere along the way, I realized that my sister was absolutely essential to my life. Maybe it was after she was in a minor biking accident when we were young that this became clear.
Thankfully she was OK, suffering just a minor concussion But that moment created a major change in how I viewed my sis.
She knows me better than just about anyone else and, thankfully, still accepts me. I can be my weird self, and she still accepts me, and is often even weirder than me. She is also the person I go to when I really need to talk to someone. When my mom passed away suddenly a few months ago, she was my lifeline. I clung to my sister to in a very tumultuous sea of grief -- and she did the same. As the other daughter losing that same wonderful mother, she was the only person who really understood what I was feeling.
I saw a quote today that said: “Only a sister is equally part of your past and your future.” And it really struck me -- because the "future" part of that quote was threatened a few days ago. Steph was concerned that she’d had a recurrence of the melanoma that had reared its ugly head a few years back. And suddenly I was 11 again, stomach tightening, heart pounding, worried that this precious being would somehow leave me. I couldn’t imagine my life without her when I was 11 and I can’t imagine my life without her now. We have a lot more memories to create together. I may be the older sister, but I have looked up to her for as long as I can remember. She makes me want to be a better, kinder, more fun-loving, more faithful, more thoughtful person. Stephie is the better version of me.
How thankful I am for a future that includes my sis. I will cherish every moment.